As a parent, I want to instill similar values my parents vested into me: don’t steal, be polite to others, etc. But the one I never agreed with were the idea of “bad words.”
George Carlin said it best (and of course I’ll paraphrase,) “you 300,000 words in the English language: good words. You 12, BAD.”
So from a very young age I’ve tried to explain to my kids that the words themselves aren’t bad, the context which they’re used may be.
Case in point, my 7-year old son is reading a comic book where a man doesn’t want to go down the “damn stairs” and he pulled me aside and asked if he should be reading the book. I explained in the context of the story, the character, who was trying to escape and didn’t wish to use the fire escape was showing anger and chose those words. He understood that the word was used under duress and stress; therefore the character showed his anger by using “damn.”
Is it wrong that I want them to understand the words aren’t wrong or bad, only the context in which they’re used?